Reflective Surfaces

Happy Friday!!!

I shared my blog info with my mommy and she read it.  That's great!  She liked it enough to share with a co-worker and she's now quoting things I said.  That's awesome! When my mom was telling me her co-worker was really feeling my writing, I told her I hadn't even planned on writing today, but she said 'you need to.'  'Yes, ma'am' was my only reply.

Here we go...

You just never know what kind of impact you can have on someone, if you would just but share your experiences.  In a conversation with a close friend yesterday, she was sharing how concerned she is for the decisions her younger sister is making and is going to have her friend talk to her because their lives are mirroring each other in a bad way.  The friend is older than the sister, but was in her shoes awhile ago and doesn't want this young one to come up the same way. 

In my friend sharing that with me, I was noting that my aunt are asking the same of me for her daughter--my cousin.  It's kind of a flattering position to be put in, but kind of not.  It's like 'your life is some kind of wonderful now and you are a wonderful example to people.  If they talk to you long enough, they will know you were a hot mess and maybe stop what they are doing to save themselves from being like you how you become you!'  Aww, gee thanks!  LOL.  But really, it is an interesting position to be in.

I am the crazy one of my sisters--I went the furthest to school, had the first kid, been in compromising situations...my siblies (as I like to call them) don't do that.  So, they are the ones talking to me all the time about making better decisions, not the other way around.

So, here I am now being asked to be an example for someone else, to help them make better choices and kind of lost as to how to do that.  My friend (who I was talking to yesterday) said, "All you can do is share your story and as you talk she'll start seeing parts of you she identifies with."  Got it.

And as simple as that, I am reminded today by my mother that other people identify with me through what I say. 

I never thought I was insignificant.  I know I am destined for great things.  My parents raised me that way. But I guess I never put thought into the idea that my life is an example for others--the way I act, treat others, allow others to treat me, and what I set my sights on to accomplish are examples for others. 

The world doesn't need a whole bunch of people just like me in the sense that my personality and attitude are too much for even me sometimes, but the world does need more transparent people willing to share with others the heartache, the excitement of firsts in their lives, the 'how to get from A to B' guide and the like, so we can all find something in each other we identify with and thereby make us better people.

Living two points past platinum is about that life---the life the shares to grow.  If I can say one thing to help you heal and move on, yes! If I can say one thing to make you not do what you were about to do because I did it and told you how it turned out, yes! Granted, you can do everything like the next person and get totally different results, but you get what I'm sayin!

I don't know if this helps you, but I feel like Young Gunz right now: Can't Stop Won't Stop Rockafella Records out this piece! 

I MUST keep writing.  In this, may you find the peace to satisfy your soul...I sure am...

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